She is really hurting herself. She has no idea why she was put here or when her mother is likely to be back.
Will she ever come back? This is childhood neglect trauma.
The little daughter is famished as well as hungry. She has hardly any appetite. eager for affection as well as food at once. This is emotional neglect childhood.
She only knows of this cold and poorly lighted cell. Nobody to comfort her that everything would be fine — someone to look at, hold in order, or talk to. She sobs quietly for hours on end, clutching herself in the hope that the suffering would finally pass and that someone would come to her rescue and open the door. This is the psychological impact of childhood isolation.
She had gone through something like to this before. She is not sure when this will happen even though she knows someone will come to her save, pick her up, and show her compassion at some time in the future. Children have a quite poor concept of time, as you can see, hence everything is the be all and end all. Consequently, the only knowledge this young girl has is that her mother has put her in this predicament; she does not know when she will be back or how long she will have to go through this misery.
If she waits and is a good girl, someone is going to appear and it is vital for someone to come. There only simply one option here. I only have to put up with this; after that, I will be safe.
The little child waits calmly, and in her imagination she has imaginary conversations with the same mother who brought her into this sad situation. She idealizes her mother to the extent that she becomes a celestial creature, an otherworldly, beautiful woman who meets all of her daughter’s needs by her deeds. Apart from taking care of her, her mother usually holds her on her lap. Still, the little child just sees this in her thoughts. She acts in this way even though the reality of her mother leaving her and leaving her totally alone is too difficult for her to accept. This is childhood trauma and idealization.
Ground-based bugs start to be her friends. Teeny-tiny and very beautiful are they. I can’t help but wonder where they are hurrying to. Are they maybe trying to flee to their own mothers? She talks with the insects, tells them about her worries, and watches a young ant carrying food to her family. Maybe I should attempt to see that; maybe I would be better off if I were an ant because then at least I would have food.
At last someone opens the door; mother is the visitor. She’s back now. My mother has come back; I love her overwhelmingly. The little youngster runs madly for her mother, clutches her leg and fast holds to her for dear life. She is ready to do anything to be with her as she already understands the suffering of being totally alone. This is childhood trauma and fear of abandonment.
She turns into a performance capable of making others happy. She acts in ways and speaks using terms a small child should never be exposed to. She is always searching for ways to draw the attention of her mother and anybody else who may be interested in her as she wants never to have to go through the trauma of being ignored or mistreated ever again. It never has been enough at any one moment to be one’s actual self. She has to act, perform, and be perfect. One finds the perfect outfit, the perfect haircut, and the perfect words all combining. She can decipher all the required words her mother wants to hear. This is childhood trauma and performance behaviors and childhood trauma and perfection seeking.
The underlying cause is always going through the unspeakable suffering that results from abuse mixed with neglect. One quality that people have is adaptation. Many of us are beautiful; we have lovely features and bodies and know we might use this to our use to meet our need for love and attention. This is coping mechanisms childhood trauma.
One of the few things that may help us to keep on living is our appearance. Our minds are much occupied with it. Our attractiveness as it is and the ways in which we may look better. How other people will see us, how they will be pulled to us depending on our appearance, how we dress, and how we apply makeup? I know I go through a lot of mental pain if I believe my makeup gets smudged or if I appear inadequate. I have to be perfect as nothing less than that is unacceptable. Stated differently, if I am not perfect, I will be abused and overlooked. This is childhood trauma and need for attention and long term effects of childhood neglect.
On the other hand, the craving is totally unquenchable because, in the back of our thoughts, we will never forget what it was like to be the center of attention, we will never forget how horrible it was, and we will never forget how much we want we never go back to it. Every deed we do seeks to fend off the darkness, thus enabling us to experience love and devotion, and so feel valued. We suffer when we are not the center of attention as it reminds us of our early years and the horrific events we went through. Our objective is to stay away from that place at all means. Our life depends on it. This is childhood trauma and unquenchable craving and childhood trauma and self-worth issues.
To find support and healing, consider finding a therapist specializing in childhood trauma recovery, joining support groups for childhood trauma survivors, and exploring books on childhood trauma recovery. You can also research complex trauma and learn about attachment styles. Remember, healing childhood trauma is possible, and there are resources available to help.
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